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Grown Up (Over 40 Everything)







This post was about an exhibition, but the exhibition – which was phenomenal – is long gone now.  Today, looking at these photos I remember how I had recently attained this new haircut when we went to the Turner show. I remember how hard it was to commit to the cut I long wanted because I was afraid the style was too young. Would I pull it off with my white hair? Would I look silly? Was it okay for a mid forties mom to have this haircut? And most importantly did I even know what a mid forties woman was supposed to look like?

The question of what it means to be a grown up in “Hollywood” is something I’ve been pondering since 1997 when I wrote an article about it for Artweek. Back then, in my mid twenties I observed how both the three year olds and mothers on the west side of Los Angeles dressed like they were in The Spice Girls. It wasn’t just about women; people across all genders and ages seemed to be under the hypnotic power of  “adolescent LA” which I linked to the film industry’s obsession with teenagers.

Since the 50’s, when the teenager was invented here in the U.S. for marketing reasons, it’s playground headquarters have been Los Angeles. The campaign may have started by targeting these youths, but it ended up creating a whole population of wanna-be teens at almost every age – especially on the west side of LA. As the American Dream’s price tag rose, the pressures of being an adult attaining this dream rose. So why not be a teenager forever  – or at least dress and act like one?

I talk to women friends all the time who are trying to figure out how to dress like a grown up. They, like me, want to express elegance, femininity, strength, and unique style – all, while being happy with their age.

So, where do we find inspiration? When women complain about getting older I say, “Oh, just be French!” Catherine Deneuve, anyone? In the UK, the over forty fashion blogger scene even has their own conference! However, now you can find style direction in your very own country. Look up “Advanced Style” and you will find how the mature lady’s style is coming into the spotlight and giving us some inspiration. These women and men are on fire. They accept themselves and see everyday as an opportunity to live life as art… And that is good to do at any age.

First outfit:  Pants by Pamela Barish. MIT rain jacket by MIT. Rose necklace by Mingle. Shoes by Tsubo. Haircut by Scott at Don’s Cutting Edge. Photos by Evan Hartzell.

Second outfit: Marc by Marc Jacobs Dress. Photos by Aristotle Hartzell. 

Museum Meetings


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 photographs by Aristotle

I am desiring a name for dressing like you are living the life you dream of.  Kylego means to act as if what you want is already or has already happened. What about extending this to your outfit?

I think I was going to teach a sewing class on the day I wore this outfit… however, I was hoping museum meetings – or MM’s for short – were in my future.  I imagine MM outfits to involve weighty interior decor fabrics. The hair is up, and the person wearing it personally knows the designer who made the jewelry they are wearing. They might even know the maker of their dress if they take meetings at MOMA. If I had red framed glasses, it would be perfection.

One maker of dresses that are MM worthy is Lucy Wild. I was lucky to have a friend who was hosting a trunk show for Lucy the other day.

Her dresses are delicious constructions which are simple, feminine, but also say, “I’m getting to work with abstract concepts and there might be projections involved.” Am I the only person who gets that from these exquisitely made-to-order dresses? Maybe it’s the northern European meets Japanese vibe I’m connecting with.


So, with my outfit, even though I was off to teach nine year olds how to make skirts, which is fulfilling in itself, I channeled MM participant, artistic director of an important program, elegant agent of change, and what happened? Well, two months later a museum got a grant that grants me many MM’s… Now, what am I going to wear to this museum meeting tomorrow?

Dress by Barneys, New York. Stone necklace by Nicole. Earrings by Mingle.